• Healthy Life by Jess

To-Go Tips to Live Your Best Self-Care Life

Updated: Mar 3, 2019

Do you feel like you’re bad at self-care? When other people tell you to make time for self-care, do you wonder how on earth to make it happen? Simply put, self-care is the time you put into the activity that nurtures and refuels your body and mind on a deeper level. In this busy world, we tend to forget the importance of taking the time to focus on ourselves. Whether it's taking a lavender rose bubble bath, putting on a face mask to nourish our skin, or journaling our thoughts before bed. Okay, I know what you are thinking, “I don't have time for a mask or bubble bath or journaling because I have to catch up on my emails before bed or I’m busy taking my kids to school in the morning before work.” Well, what if I told you adding in self-care to your busy calendar would actually save your time because it results in a less stressed environment and more happiness! For example, instead of worrying about loads of email you have to send first thing in the morning try to take a 10-minute shower to relax your mind. You will realize how much easier your day will flow. You might be wondering how you develop a self-care routine anyway. Is it difficult? Actually, no! Is it necessary? Totally. 1. Find a practice that you actually have fun doing When you think of self care you might think of yoga, green smoothies, face masks, or kale, but if these things feel like chores, then self-care activities won’t feel good! The goal when creating your self-care routine is to think of activities that make you feel like your best self. What gives you a burst of positive energy? What provides you with a sacred space? Most simply, what puts a smile on your face? I personally write down self-care activities that feel good anytime I find something new or different. By writing down your thoughts, you will be able to put them fully in practice. If you are new to this self care thing, then try integrating activities that take about 10 to 15 minutes to make it easier to fit into your schedule.

2. Practice Mindfulness to ensure you are present in the moment

“If you are depressed you are living in the past.

If you are anxious you are living in the future.

If you are at peace you are living in the present.”

Lao Tzu Do you find that you are constantly worried about the past or the future? You are not alone. We are often experts at worrying, instead of living in the moment. Try to get to a point where your mood doesn't change based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Sometimes, simply practicing mindfulness helps. It’s okay to have thoughts that maybe don’t relate to the moment. But, instead of letting these thoughts get the best of you simply, breathe in the thought and then let it go. Try to think of this action like letting go of a balloon into the sky. Notice how mindfulness will allow you to take pleasure in your self-care activities without stressing about your to-do- list.

3. Don’t be quick to judge yourself In today’s society, we’re quick to seek perfection in all that we do. We demand strict diet plans, highly regimented workout schedules, spotless relationships, & our quick to judge our financial status. Rather than seeking perfection in all things, work on your intentions and goals day by day. Take a look at your values and decide where you really want to place your effort in the time you have. Start to practice forgiveness and learn and grow from your mistakes instead. Set goals for yourself to develop a growth mindset. Tip: write your goals in a place where you know you will see them. Develop an expression of gratitude by writing down three things you are grateful for before bed (from small to big) and notice how you will start to develop a more optimistic mindset. Notice when and where the pleasurable stress of a challenge ends and toxic stress begins. Remember, no one is perfect.

By allowing yourself the time and space to practice self-care without negative emotions weighing you down, your energy and enthusiasm will shine and you will begin to attract things that you most desire. XX,Jessica